Closing The Bones & Bengkung Bellybinding


Closing The Bones

The Closing the Bones ceremony, also known as the Sealing ceremony, is a sacred, profoundly loving ritual that carries immense significance. It’s a practice that beautifully acknowledges the intricate dance of childbirth, where a woman’s body, heart, and soul open wide to bring forth life into this world.

Childbirth is a sacred journey of opening—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. However, as the baby is born, a transition occurs, and the body requires gentle closure. This sealing process is about inviting back the life force energy, known as ‘chi’ or ‘prana,’ into the core channels within our beings, the very channels we once shared with our precious little one. It’s a restoration of balance, a reunion with the self, and a return to the sacred rhythm of life.

This rebalancing and reconnection can be facilitated through various spiritual modalities, such as Reiki healing, sound healing, and the power of intention. The Rebozo, a traditional Mexican shawl, is often woven into this sacred tapestry, its threads carrying the energy of generations of women.

The act of childbirth, with all its raw beauty, can leave a mother feeling emotionally exposed and vulnerable. The Closing the Bones ceremony is a deeply spiritual and loving response to this vulnerability—a pathway to restoration, rebalancing, and honouring the sacred vessel that is the mother’s body. It is a radiant return to wholeness.

Incorporating Closing the Bones and the sealing ceremony into the postpartum journey marks the transition into motherhood as a sacred passage. It’s a setting of sacred space, a joyous celebration, and a profound act of nurturing for both mother and baby. The ceremony commences by creating a sacred sanctuary, often with smudging to cleanse and purify the energies.

We gather to honour this transformative moment, sharing herbal teas and, most importantly, listening intently to the mother’s birth story. Her narrative is vital, as it deserves to be heard and held in reverence.

Should the mother choose, she can take in a ceremonial bath, infused with fragrant rose petals and essential oils—a symbolic cleansing of the birthing experience and an embracing of femininity and beauty once more. This may be followed by a tender back massage, with warm oils that cradle her spirit.

As she lies down, the Rebozo comes into play, its gentle techniques applied with love.

The journey commences with a gentle rocking of your hips, a soothing dance performed with a rebozo or another soft scarf or shawl. This rhythmic motion functions as a lullaby for your body, ushering you into a state of relaxation and comfort.

Next, attention is directed towards your abdomen and hips, where a warm oil  is applied.  It’s a loving massage that communicates with your body’s innate wisdom, gently coaxing it into a state of serene surrender.

As we approach the end of this part  your hips / body are tenderly wrapped, Blessings are spoken as she is lovingly bound at specific points on her body.

Warm oils and lavender-infused flaxseed pouches cocoon her, enveloping her in warmth and tenderness. 

After this loving care, the mother is invited to rest, wrapped in warmth and nurtured by love. 

The essence of this ceremony transcends words—it’s a testament to the sacredness of women’s bodies, the resilience of the spirit, and the enduring power of love. Every woman who journeys into motherhood deserves this profound act of love, respect, and celebration. It’s a reminder that the birthing journey doesn’t end with the baby’s arrival; it’s a continuous cycle of love and rebirth.

This ceremony can be performed as early as six hours after childbirth, for those who have had a normal delivery, and it stands as a timeless tribute to the incredible strength and resilience of women.

Bengkung Bellybinding

During pregnancy, the incredible dance of hormones causes ligaments to stretch, gently loosening the pelvic floor structure. This natural process allows the pelvic bones to gracefully open, making way for the birth of your precious baby. It’s a marvel of nature, but it can leave a mama feeling a bit wobbly on her feet.

After giving birth, the pelvic floor may remain in a state of gentle looseness and instability for up to five months. This is where the beautiful practice of belly binding comes into play. It’s like a gentle guide that speeds up the process of realignment, bringing everything back to its rightful place. Moreover, it offers sweet relief from the back pain that can accompany the immediate postnatal period. It’s a nurturing embrace for a mother’s body, one that often goes unnoticed.

The key to this practice is consistency. It’s recommended to wear the belly bind as often as possible during the first six weeks after giving birth. Ideally, you should start wearing it as soon as you comfortably can, around day five post-birth.  Aim for about 10-12 hours a day in the beginning, if it suits you, and continue for at least 40 days or longer if you find it beneficial. C-section mamas should wait approximately six weeks until their incision is mostly healed before beginning the wrapping process.

It’s important to note that there are contraindications for this practice, specifically in cases of a fallen uterus. In such situations, it’s best to seek guidance from a healthcare professional.

Belly binding isn’t just a physical practice; it’s a loving embrace for your postpartum body, a reminder of the incredible journey it has undertaken and a gentle guide back to strength and stability.

Closing of the bones ceremony – includes warm oil back massage – £185 plus travel

Closing of the bones & Bengkung bind – includes the bind – £280 plus travel

The belly bind is great!  I’ve used it for 7 days post birth for half a day and already feel straighter and firmer!  Thank you, – C Nielsen, Bucks

I was so excited when I found Pamela. I was very keen to use the Bengkung belly binding as part of my healing process post-birth and it seemed no one in London was offering this. Luckily for me, Pamela came to the rescue. She made the most lovely binding material for me and premixed the herbs for the paste. Because we live too far from each other for her to provide hands on help with the binding, she took the time to walk me through the process over the phone and made me feel confident that I could do it myself. She also provided detailed instructions on how to apply the binding material and paste in the beautiful package she made for me. I now feel better prepared knowing that I can help my body recover so that I am in the best possible health to take care of my baby. Thank you Pamela for making this possible for me!” – H. Masri

Hi Pammie, thank you for allowing me to come to your home today, for holding space for me and for closing my bones and my body.  Wow.  Just wow.  I am processing so much and tonight I held back tears, of joy. It was beautiful   I felt such a different, deeper connection to my son and so much has changed in my mind.   It was just so beautiful. I never knew how much I needed this.  It’s reinforced my belief in why it’s needed for everyone.  And I still believe you don’t have to be a mother to benefit.  I still believe this offers healing at the very core of the feminine energy, no matter where you are in life.  But thank you, thank you – Helen D